8 Tips to Build Trust in Yourself

We know what trust in a relationship looks like. When we trust another person we know we can rely on their word, lean on them for strength, expect they will give us the truth, and recognize and depend on their abilities.

Trust is fundamental in romantic, professional, and well any type of relationship. this even includes the relationship we have with ourselves.

If I set a goal for the day or say I am going to do something, but then I don't, I lost some trust in myself! The same thing happens when we focus on our weaknesses, tell ourself lies, or lean away from our abilities! We learn we can't rely on our ourselves for taking care of our needs and we see ourselves as undependable.

Why is Self Trust Important?

You wake up in the morning and say, "I really need to get s*** done today". You said that yesterday, and the day before. Everyday starts feeling discouraged and ashamed.

You go out with friends and feel uncomfortable because you don't agree with what they think or say, but you hide it because their validation and connection feels important.

Theres many other examples of what having little self trust can look like. It leaves you feeling critical, confused, or even angry with yourself. Feeling like this makes life overwhelming, relationships dissatisfying, and motivation lacking.

Learning to trust in who you are and the way you engage with the world changes your life! You see things through a confident and safe perspective when you know that you are capable and dependable to navigate life as your true self.

When you wake up and know you have a few simple and doable tasks that you are gonna rock, you suddenly feel excited and motivated. When you learn to listen to who you are and what you value, you will begin to find more meaning in the world.

Most importantly, you will have a better relationship with yourself and everyone around you!

If I fully trusted myself, what would my life look like?

TIP 1: Set Goals

Keep it clear and simple. Being realistic and kind with your goals leads to more follow through. The more we follow through, the more we prove that we can depend on ourselves to complete our goals! Show up for yourself in a meaningful way when you set goals.

TIP 2: Reflect On Past Mistakes

Approach past mistakes with curiosity rather than judgment. Be curious about what caused the mistake, how it effected you, and how you want to approach the same experiences going forward.

TIP 3: Self Talk

Tell the negative Nancy in your head to take a break! Self criticizing only shows that we don't have our own back. When we speak empathetically and encouraging to ourselves we will be able to lean into our thoughts when the tough times come up, just like a comforting mentor or friend.

TIP 4: Explore Intuition

Ever heard of "trust your gut"? Intuition can be tricky to hear or understand. Get in the practice of closing your eyes and feeling what comes up in your body and your heart when making a decision. Listen when your body tells you something is good and feels refreshing!

TIP 5: Validate Emotions

Let your emotions have space instead of shoving them away. You can ride the good feelings longer and move through the uncomfortable feelings with understanding. Listening to what your emotions are telling you will build trust in how you manage day to day.

TIP 6: Use Strengths

What are you good at? How can you use it to create a life that is meaningful? Building strengths and mastering skills increases your abilities and confidence. Look at your strengths and learn what you are capable of.

TIP 7: Practice Self Compassion

Humans are set up to protect themselves and move through the world creating, growing, and building connections with others. Thats a big responsibility, and at the end of the day you are the one that has to catch yourself. Be a loving, comforting and welcoming place to turn to!

TIP 8: Self Truth

Explore the things that you value and prioritize. Learn what is true for you, and make sure you set boundaries so that you can speak and live as your true self.

Ready to Build More Self Trust

Exploring your experiences and goals with a therapist can be a great way to start your self trust journey, and give you some accountability! At Desert Therapy and Wellness we offer individual counseling for teens and adults in Las Vegas and Henderson Nv. Come find out we can help you on building your self trust. Schedule a free consultation below!